Intuition Development Course:
Emotional Vampires
with Reverend Arlene Raedel
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Total Lessons: 14
Lesson 1: Introduction: What is an Emotional Vampire and How to Recognize if You are Being Emotionally Sapped
Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it?
Lesson 2: Learn How to Recognize if You are Being an Emotional Vampire
We’ve all got a smidgeon of vampire in us, especially when we’re stressed. So, cut yourself a break. It’s admirable to admit, “I think I’m emotionally draining people. What can I do?” You can’t begin to make changes in your life without this type of honesty.
Lesson 3: Emotional Vampire #1. The Narcissist (Narcissistic personality)
Their motto is “Me first!” Everything’s all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, hog attention, and crave admiration. A legend in Their own mind, the world is reflected in Their image.
Lesson 4: Emotional Vampire #2: The Victim (Dependent Personality)
These vampires grate on you with a poor-me attitude, and are allergic to taking responsibility for Their actions. People are always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. They portray themselves as unfortunates who demand rescuing, and they will make you into their therapist.
Lesson 5: Emotional Vampire #3: The Controller (Obsessive-Compulsive Personality)
These vampires obsessively try to control you, have no qualms about dictating what you’re supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything; disagree with them at your peril. Life is either black or white. They’ll control you by invalidating your emotions if those don’t fit into Their rulebook.
Lesson 6: Emotional Vampire #4: The Criticizer (Mixed Personality Disorder)
A close relative of controllers, These vampires feel qualified to judge your alleged merits or demerits. They can spot flaws across a crowded room, the shamelessly suggest how to improve them “for your own good.”
Lesson 7: Emotional Vampire #5: The Splitter (Borderline Personality)
Splitters see people as either good or bad, and they are aficionados of love-hate relationships. They’ll seduce you by placing you on a pedestal, but you’re just being set up for a fall. One minute they idealize Their new best friend;” the next you’re evil incarnate if they feel the slightest bit wronged or abandoned.
Lesson 8: Emotional Vampire #6: The Blamer
The blamer has a sneaky way of making you feel guilty for not getting things just right. He/she berates, doles out endless servings of guilt, and may resort to verbal abuse, an attack posture learned early on.
Lesson 9: Emotional Vampire #7: The Drama Queen
They’re the Sarah Bernhardt of vampires, have a breathy flair for exaggerating small incidents and making them off-the-charts dramas. Life is always extreme, either unbearably good or bad. They spend life flitting from crisis to crisis, energized by chaos. Histrionics are Their middle name. (Typically, Their parents equated concocted “disaster” with intimacy.) We dare not ask how they’re feeling—they might tell us.
Lesson 10: Emotional Vampire #8: The Fixer Upper
This vampire is like a fixer-upper house that requires endless repairs. There are two types to watch out for. The first makes you into her therapist. At all hours she calls desperate to have you fix her problems, unlike the victim who simply complains. As a friend you want to comply, but her conundrums are endless: “How can I get my boyfriend back? Why am I so fat?”...yada, yada.
Lesson 11: Emotional Vampire #9: The Outwardly Nice Socializer
There’s nothing obvious to give this drainer away. He may look and sound perfectly fine, and isn’t necessarily boring. Still, after just minutes of contact your energy dims. He’s keeping up the conversation--you can see his mouth moving--but you’re fading fast, and feeling a little seasick.
Lesson 12: Emotional Vampire #10: The Go-For-The-Jugular Friend
One of the most malevolent of bloodsuckers, this person is vindictive and cuts you down with no consideration for your feelings. Driven by envy, competition, or severe insecurity they deflate your energy with just the right insult. Their jabs can be so hurtful, and are hard to get them out of your head.
Lesson 13: Emotional Vampire #11: Unintentional Sappers
People we love can sometimes drain us the most. Our children, mates, or other intimates aren’t trying to do us in, but life’s demands add up. Somebody has to tend to them; and often that somebody is you.
Lesson 14: Emotional Vampire #12: Crowds That Drain
Since crowds intensify energy, they can be uplifting or enervating. Kenny Loggins told me, “A responsive audience is a high. But when they’re out of sync I get exhausted--in the music industry we say the room has gone ‘gun cold.’” Similarly, you need to be aware of the energy of crowds to comfortably navigate them. |
